When you’re an officiant to a wedding, it’s hard to determine what your actual job will be and what exactly you’ll be doing. More than likely, you’ll be awaiting the bride and waiting on your next move but you still have a lot of responsibilities of your own. The bride has her own laundry list of things to do but what about you? What exactly should you be doing while we’re all waiting for the bride to walk down the aisle?
The thing about being an officiant you need to remember is that most people will not remember you. You’re one of the most important people of the wedding but more people tend to remember the food, the awful dancing by drunks and the band more than the officiant. When it comes to the ceremony, that’s where you come in. The ceremony is going to be your playground and if there’s anything wrong with it, then all eyes are going to be on you and the bride will not be too happy with you.
Believe it or not, the guests remember the ceremony more than any other part of the wedding. Sure, they remember the bride and groom walking down the aisle but the most memorable part for them is the inevitable ceremony. When you think of a ceremony, what do you think of? A ceremony should be an expression of sorts. It needs to be some kind of expression that best represents the bride and the groom. Not only that but the ceremony’s main theme needs to blend in with the wedding itself.
So what kind of issues are you going to face during the ceremony when you’re officiating that? There’s actually a list of things you need to be worried about and things you need to focus on before anything else is planned out for the ceremony.
- Now, I know people like to argue over religion a lot but this is something you need to get into detail with the family about. You need to figure out just how many different religious and spiritual people will be there. You want to try to custom tailor things towards different religions but at the same time, you don’t want to offend anyone.
- Some families who are Catholic but have been divorced before aren’t going to be able to get married in the Parish. So, they’re probably going to want to know if they still can have a Catholic themed ceremony that the parents are going to appreciate and approve of.
- Some people might want a traditional wedding at a place that isn’t very traditional. Some people might even have their conference in a hotel conference room, so you might have to make room for that or become accustom to it.
These are all very real scenarios you could face and more. When it comes to engaged couples, you never know what you’re going to face and what questions they’re going to throw your way. So for this reason, you need to make sure you’re prepared to answer them.